Baldur’s Gate 3: Astarion Romance Guide – how to easily win his heart

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Astarion is one of the most sought-after romance partners in Baldur’s Gate 3. However, winning him over is not as easy as it seems. To make it easier for you, we’ve put together a guide from Act 1 to Act 3, along with some general tips.

Baldur’s Gate 3 allows you to not only get to know your NPC companions, but also to romance them by all means. One of the most popular objects of desire, if not the most popular potential partner, is the vampire Astarion.

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Update from March 27, 2026: We have gone through the article again and made some structural adjustments to the post.

Astarion is one of the first who shows interest in your character. However, he is not the easiest romantic partner in the game. To help you secure him in your next run or if you just need help landing him in the later acts, we have compiled everything here that can help you.

You meet him in Act 1, near the crashed Nautiloid. In our overview, we explain where you can find and recruit all the companions in Baldur’s Gate 3.

If you are looking for information on the romance with another character, you can check our comprehensive guide:

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Astarion Romance Guide – General Tips for Increased Approval

Right from the start: Astarion’s approval increases when you engage in self-serving acts. However, the idea that you can romance him better as a evil character is not true. Therefore, here are some fundamental tips for your interactions.

First of all: You must start the romance in Act 1. It is unfortunately not possible to join later. However, it is sufficient to have Medium Approval with him at this point.

Astarion’s Character in Brief

Astarion’s story revolves heavily around coercion and autonomy. He pretends to be an unapproachable, cold-blooded vampire who is not concerned with the fate of the world around him.

In reality, he has undergone 200 years of brutal slavery. He fears losing his newly gained autonomy. This leads him to want to manipulate your character with sex. Once he trusts you, he will reveal his wounded soul and ask for help. However, it takes time for him to feel secure enough with you.

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How do I increase Astarion’s approval? If you want to raise Astarion’s esteem, especially at the beginning, make rather self-serving decisions. He doesn’t seem to appreciate it when you help other people. In reality, it’s mostly because he thinks that you already have enough of your own problems. So why take on the problems of others as well?

So he will not appreciate it if you are offering help to everyone and their mother, especially in Act 1. Kagha and the refugees are at the top of his They should take care of their own business list.

If he approaches you in dialogues, you should not reject him. That would hurt his ego and drive his approval for you down. Loyalty is important to him.

This is an AI-powered translation. Some inaccuracies might exist.
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